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Hey guys!! It has been a decade I didn't posted anything here! And then all of a sudden the topic is LOVE? (meoowwwww!) Yes. Love..(euwwwwww!)lol

HAHAHA...

Well, ignore me cuz I've never experienced it before. Maybe that 'Mr. Don't Know Who' is still (blur) looking at the world map on how to reach me here.lol. Recalling bout the past, I should congratulate this one special person who has been patiently waiting for me to reply for his 'proposal' (he's not mine anyway). He already found his mate now:)The reality (at that time) was 'Hey! You're my best friend!'. And the factual thing now is a man does have time for waiting. (Shoot) Whats the nonsense thing m saying here?lol

Okay. Back to the real purpose of what I wanna share here. It is something that I've came across over my friend's facebook. Wanna know what is the real love? Here is a great except by Stephen Covey. 'Love is a verb'. Have a read:)

At one seminar where I was speaking on the concept of proactivity vs reactivity, a man came up to me and said, “I like what you are saying. But every situation is so different. Look at my marriage. I’m really worried. My wife and I just don’t have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don’t love her anymore and she doesn’t love me. What can I do?”

“The feeling isn’t there anymore?” I asked.

“That’s right.” he reaffirmed. “And we have three children we’re really concerned about. What do you suggest?”

“Love her,” I replied.

“I told you, the feeling just isn’t there anymore.”

“Love her.”

“You don’t understand. The feeling of love just isn’t there.”

Then love her. If the feeling isn’t there, that’s a good reason to love her.”

But how do you love when you don’t love?”

“My friend, love is a verb. Love — the feeling — is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her.
Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?”

In the great literature of all progressive societies, love is a verb. Reactive people make it a feeling. They’re driven by feelings. Hollywood has generally scripted us to believe that we are not responsible, that we are a product of our feelings. But the Hollywood script does not describe the reality. If our feelings control our actions, it is because we abdicated our responsibility and empowered them to do so.

Proactive people make love a verb, Love is something you do: the sacrifice you make, the giving of self, like a mother bringing a newborn into the world. If you want to study love, study those who sacrifice for others, not expecting anything in return and even for people who offend, turns the coldest shoulder or do not love in return. If you are a parent, look at the love you have for the children you sacrificed for. Love is a value that is actualized through loving actions.

Proactive people subordinate feelings to values. Love, the feeling, can be recaptured.

- Covey, S.

*This is how we should view Love. Be proactive. Love your family.Love your partner.Love your friends.Love your fellow beings.Love yourself. Love Allah.:)